1. Synchronize Your Schedules
Sure it’s tempting to send email late into the night while he falls asleep in front of the TV, but if this sounds familiar, you need to change this pattern. If you crawl into bed at the same time as your spouse each night, sex is an option. If you don’t, it is completely off the table. Your goal is warm bodies cuddling every night.
2. Make Your Husband Your Gay Best Friend
Sure it’s tempting to send email late into the night while he falls asleep in front of the TV, but if this sounds familiar, you need to change this pattern. If you crawl into bed at the same time as your spouse each night, sex is an option. If you don’t, it is completely off the table. Your goal is warm bodies cuddling every night.
2. Make Your Husband Your Gay Best Friend
In the best marriages, spouses are best friends. Your husband should
have the most intel on your life. Do you have good news? Tell him first.
Bad news? Tell him first. Leaning on your husband leads to greater
connection and intimacy.
3. Do Bite-sized Check Ins
Over a glass of wine or a cup of tea, make time to have a 20 minute
check in each day – morning or night. Keep it to 20 minutes or your
partner is less likely to want to do it tomorrow. The daily check-in
results in intimacy because it literally holds your life together and
insures you are on the same path.
4. Have a Weekly Date Night
Set up a weekly sitter so that date night becomes as much a part of
your schedule as work or school. And remember that date night is not for
problem solving. If you are doing your bite-size dailies, there is no
need to use date nights for anything but fun. Trade off the planning
responsibilities and enjoy.
5. Create Your Dreamables
Remember when you first met and the two of you giddily talked about
your vision for the future? Just as a growing company periodically
rethinks their plan, at least once a year you want to dream with your
partner. Look 3-5 years ahead, look 10 years ahead. Think about
careers, kids, travel, health, and money. Dreaming together is a great
reminder that you are a team. Dream achievable – set a vision that you
can aim for and get to.
6. Settle on a Sex Quota
Every couple is different and you need to do what works for both of
you. Talk to your spouse about how much you each want to be having sex,
meet in the middle and aim to achieve it! Getting in touch with each
other’s desires will help you meet one another’s needs.
7. Fly Solo
The two of you need to do a couple’s trip without kids at least once a
year. Even two days at a local hotel will rejuvenate your marriage. And
go guilt-free because taking some time to intensely connect will
benefit the whole family upon your return. It is hard to be an unhappy
kid with two happy parents.
8. Be United
As parents you are faced with hundreds of decisions on a weekly basis
and if you don’t discuss issues as they arise, they can create wedges
between you. The more you communicate about your philosophies and styles
when the kids are not listening, the better a team you will be when
they are. Getting on the same page will erase a lot of the natural
tension that comes with parenting. Support one another and your marriage
will thrive.
Find inspiration in these happily married parents who recently enjoyed date nights:
[ Source: Http://http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/working-moms-lifestyle-samantha-ettus/2013/02/08/8-ways-to-add-spark-and-sex-to-your-marriage-after-kids ]
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